Friday, November 23, 2012

WISE WOMAN WITH A MIRROR * COMMUNITY FOLK SING, OTHER EVENTS * BY THE NUMBERS * Bill's Coffeeshop Newsletter * Vol. 13 * Nov. 23, 2012



Here's a holiday story to start off the Newsletter. I first read this story several years ago for a holiday event hosted by the original Wild Bill's Coffeeshop. I plan to read it next Wednesday for Spoken Word at Uptown Bill's ~ Tom G.

WISE WOMAN 
WITH A MIRROR
MARY Rose was old enough to doubt Santa that year. But she was still young
enough to believe in the magic of Christmas.

So when she opened the front door and saw the Christmas tree, it seemed
perfectly natural. She didn't ask where the tree came from or why it was 
there. She simply announced: "Dad, the tree is here."

I was the one with all the questions. What tree? What is it doing outside 
our door? We didn't order any tree? Who left it here?

When I didn't reply, Mary Rose spoke up again. "The tree is here, Dad. I 
think I'm going to need your help bringing it in."

So I went to help her. We never did find out who left that tree for us.
There was a card with it, but it wasn't signed. And none of our neighbors 
had seen anyone leaving the tree at our door.

AS WE hauled the tree into the living room, I could tell this wasn't going 
to be any ordinary Christmas. But I had no idea what lay ahead.

Besides being a bit of a skeptic about Santa, Mary Rose was already 
outspoken. She had started politely confronting people with fur coats. And
she suggested to parents who tethered their children that such leases
belonged only on pets.

At school, she sought a meeting with the principal to discuss why one wing 
of the school was locked and the children kept inside. "They are kids, 
too," she told him. "Open the door so they can come out and we can go in."

She was also growing into a fine young feminist. Once, when I had mixed up 
the main characters in the Song of Hiawatha, she assured me that wasn't 
such a bad thing. In the original story, it is the young man Hiawatha who
carries the young woman Minnehaha across the creek. But in a column I 
wrote, it appeared that Minnehaha had carried Hiawatha. "That's okay, 
Dad," Mary Rose said. "Minehaha was a pretty strong woman. I'm sure she
could have carried Hiawatha across the creek." 

Mary Rose brought this same mixture of awe and sensibility to the Nativity 
pageant at our church. This was an annual affair which brought all kinds of
children into a recreation of the story of Jesus' birth. 

The easiest part was finding someone to play Mary. For some reason, there 
always seemed to be plenty of little girls who wanted to play that part.

The hardest part was always Joseph. There must have been a shortage of 
little boys during those years. Finding a Joseph was always like looking 
for a lost contact lens on a gymnasium floor. There seemed to be little
hope.

AND EVEN when you found a Joseph, bizarre things could happen. Just the 
year before, Joseph had abandoned his post at Mary's side and run out of 
the church. It turned out that he had been batted one too many times
by the wings of an angel and just left.

In between these two central roles, there were the animals, shepherds and 
wise men. There were always enough children to play these parts, but there 
was a lot of negotiation over the details..

For example, there will plenty of little cruisers who wanted to play
animals, many getting a second chance to wear their Halloween suits. Or 
pajamas which looked like pig or bear costumes. 

But I wasn't prepared for the mother who asked if her son could wear his
Ninja turtle suit. "I don't think there were any Ninjas at Bethlehem that 
year," I told her.

"He's willing to compromise," she replied. "I've talked with him and he 
said he'd skip wearing the shell if he could be in the pageant."

Shepherds weren't that difficult to find either. But they never seemed to 
be able to keep their beards on. And they couldn't control their sheep -- 
the smallest children -- who were always wandering off.

AND THE wise men? Well, this was going to be the year. "I want to be one 
of the wise guys," Mary Rose announced.

"I think all three were men," I responded. 

"How do you know," Mary Rose responded. "One of them could have been a
girl," she replied. "Besides you don't have enough boys." 

She had a point there, I thought. I asked her what she knew about the wise
men. "Well, each one of them brought a gift to Jesus. One brought gold,
another brought Frankenstein and one brought a mirror." 

I laughed and tried to give Mary Rose a little more information about the
gifts. But she wasn't listening. Her skeptical side had already framed a
question: "Dad, why would that one wise guy bring the Baby Jesus a 
Frankenstein. That doesn't sound very nice."

I tried to explain that it wasn't a Frankenstein that he brought, but I
didn't get very far. Mary Rose had moved on. "So are you going to let me 
be one. Can I be the wise woman with the mirror."

"Okay," I said, "but you'll have to wear a beard."

"That's great," Mary Rose replied. "Then afterwards, I can shave it off 
like you do yours."

So that Christmas, we had a Nativity pageant with all the usual
people, plus a Ninja turtle without his shell. And when it came to the
final scene, Jesus was visited by two wise guys -- and a wise woman with a 
mirror.

WHAT'S HAPPENING
AT UPTOWN BILL'S
Saturday, Nov. 24
3 pm. Grasp Support Group
7 pm. Saturday Night Music with Jeffrey Capps

Tuesday, Nov. 27
6 pm. Live TV broadcast of Tom's Guitar Show. Presented in cooperation with PATV.

Wednesday, Nov. 28
1-4 pm. Chess & Scrabble group
3 pm. Recovery International support group7 pm. Spoken Word. Ten minute slices of poetry and other writings. Open to all ages and abilities. Sign up at the coffeehouse. Co-sponsored by Little Village magazine.

Thursday, Nov. 29
6 pm. Artvaark (art activities0
7 pm. Open Mic. Ten minute performances of music and other arts. Open to all ages and abilities. Sign up at the coffee house.

Saturday, Dec. 1
4:30 pm. Irish Sessions
7 pm. Saturday Night Music: Dave Moore

Wednesday, Dec. 5
1-4 pm. Chess and Scrabble Group
3 pm. Recovery International support group.
7 pm. Spoken Word. Co-sponsored by Little Village magazine. Ten minute slices of poetry and other writings. Open to all ages and abilities. Sign up at the coffee house.

Thursday, Dec. 6
6 pm. Artvaark (Art activities)
7 pm. Open Mic. Ten minute performances of music and other arts. Open to all ages and abilities. Sign up at the coffee house.
8 pm. Music with Erin Ebnet

Saturday, Dec. 8
1-3 pm. Community Folk Sing.
3 pm. Grasp support group
7 pm. Saturday Night Music with The Gilded Bats

EXTEND THE DREAM
BY THE NUMBERS
Extend the Dream is the non-profit parent for Uptown Bill's, the Vintage Shoppe and other enterprises. Here is some information about the impact of the organization during 2012:

130 volunteers participating in the various enterprises

160 Abilities Awareness posters displayed around town

340 support group meetings (AA, Grasp, others)

284 people reading poetry at Spoken Word Events

376 people performing at Open Mic Nights

872 people receiving the Bill's Newsletter (published since 2000)

1,260 people attending concerts and performances


BILL SACKTER CENTENNIAL
COMING NEXT APRIL
April 13, 2013 marks the 100th birthday of Bill Sackter, whose life and spirit inspires Bill's Coffeeshops and a host of other enterprises in Iowa City and other communities. Wild Bill's and Uptown Bill's are collaborating on a centennial celebration for this occasion. Events include showing of "A Friend Indeed: The Bill Sackter Story" on Friday, April 12 and an all day birthday party on Saturday, April 13. For updates, "like" the Bill Sackter Centennial page on Facebook.

HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE
AT VINTAGE SHOPPE
Be sure to visit the Vintage Shoppe during its annual Holiday Open House. The dates are Thursday and Friday, Nov.29 & 30 and Saturday, Dec. 1. 10 am to 5 pm. Vintage is another project of the Extend the Dream Foundation. Located at 2203 F. Street, the store has a wide array of antiques and collectibles. For information, call 338-4466. Or visit The Vintage Shoppe on Facebook.

LOOKING BACK IN THE
BILL'S NEWSLETTER
A look at topics from the Newsletter in past years:
Twelve years ago (2000): Dave Ray, a blues musician from Minneapolis, plays this week at Wild Bill's Coffeeshop.
Eleven
years ago (2001): Graduate students in social work have organized a holiday toy drive. Donations can be dropped off in the coffeeshop.
Ten years ago (2002): Charlotte Perkins Gilman, Mother Jones and Elizabeth Gurley Flynn have been added to the collection of "Social Work Heroes on a Stick" available in the coffeeshop.

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Bill's Coffeeshop Newsletter is a virtual extension of Wild Bill's Coffeeshop and Uptown Bill's Coffee House. Published since 2000, the Newsletter is written by Tom Gilsenan, a former manager of Wild Bill's and now director of Uptown Bill's. You can write to him at tomgilsenan@gmail.com

Wild Bill's Coffeeshop is a project of the School of Social Work at the University of Iowa. It has been a part of campus life in Iowa City for more than 35 years. Located in North Hall, the coffeeshop is open weekdays from 8 am. For more information, check the Friends of Bill's Coffeeshop page on Facebook. You can call the coffeeshop at (319) 335-1281. Donations to support the work of the coffeeshop may be sent to: Bill's Coffeeshop Fund, University of Iowa Foundation, P.O. Box 4550, Iowa City, IA 52244. Contributions are tax deductible.

Uptown Bill's is the crosstown cousin of Wild Bill's. Now in its 12th year, it includes a bookstore, performance venue and other businesses in addition to a coffeeshop. Located at 730 S. Dubuque, Uptown Bill's is open Monday through Saturday from 10 am. For more information, check the Uptown Bill's website or Facebook page. You can call Uptown Bill's at (319) 339-0804. Donations to support the work of Uptown Bill's may be sent to: Extend the Dream Foundation, Uptown Bill's, 730 S. Dubuque St., Iowa City, IA 52240. Contributions are tax deductible. You can also donate online at the Uptown Bill's website: www.uptownbills.org


Tuesday, November 20, 2012

REMEMBER GIVING * LISTENING, TOO * THIS WEEK * Bill's Coffeeshop Newsletter * Vol 13 * November 18, 2012



REMEMBER GIVING 
IN THANKSGIVING
As you head home to your family and friends for holiday celebrations, please keep in mind the people among us who are hungry and homeless. They are in each of our communities, from Sioux City to Iowa City from Decorah to Des Moines. 

If you take a walk around Iowa City early in the morning, you are likely to meet people without a home trying to keep warm in stairwells and parking ramps. The same is true in other communities around Iowa and beyond.

Groups like the Catholic Worker, Rescue Mission and the Salvation Army have been providing food and shelter for individuals and families all over the US for many years. 

There are also locally-grown groups which can use your help, including: Shelter House and Crisis Center in Iowa City, the John Lewis Coffee Shop organization in Davenport, Reggie's Place Coffee Shop in Des Moines and The Banquet in Sioux Falls. A gift to one of these agencies is especially helpful during the holiday season. 

CONSIDER A GIFT OF 
LISTENING, TOO
Nourishment comes not only from food. It also comes from being recognized, acknowledged and listened to. Bill Sackter had a gift for this. In the coffeeshop and on the bus, he listened to all who wanted to be heard. His example is something we can learn from in our own lives.

There are so many opportunities for us to listen. They often come when we least expect or when we do not feel "ready."

Anna taught me that. She first called me when I was a newspaper reporter at the San Jose Sun. It was the second day of Hanukkah and she was terribly depressed. She missed her family and friends and wasn't able to get to the synagogue anymore.

Why did she call me? Her reply: I get your paper and thought you might listen. It wasn't exactly an opportune moment (my deadline was two hours away) and frankly I didn't know what to say.

But she didn't want me to talk, she wanted me to listen. So I listened. After an hour or so, she said thank you, Happy Hanukkah, and goodbye.

The next year she called again during Hanukkah. You listened to me last year, she said, so I figured you probably would again.

These calls became a Hanukkah tradition. After several years, she told me that she had been so depressed the first year that she'd been considering turning on the gas and killing herself. "But I didn't because you listened," she said.

Anna died a natural death more than a dozen years after her first call. But her lesson about listening has stayed with me. I suppose our opportunities to listen aren't usually so dramatic. But one never knows ~ Tom G.

EVENTS THIS WEEK
AT COFFEE HOUSE
Here's a quick look at upcoming events:

Monday, Nov. 19 -- AA meeting at 6pm
Tuesday, Nov. 20 -- Reception for members of Tacit, a performing arts group from Korea. Hosted by CSPS, the wonderful venue in Cedar Rapids.

Wednesday, Nov. 21 -- Coffee house open til 5 pm. No Spoken Word (Spoken Word resumes Wednesday, Nov. 28.)
Thursday, Nov. 22 -- Open 10 am to 2 pm. Thanksgiving potluck starts at Noon. No Open Mic.(Open Mic resumes Thursday, Nov. 29.)

Friday, Nov. 23 -- Open 10 am to 2 pm.
Saturday, Nov. 24 -- Open 9 am to 9 pm. Saturday Night Music with Jeffrey Capps. 7 pm $5 cover.

For more on upcoming events, check our Facebook page and follow us on Twitter. Or pick up a calendar at the coffee house. 

ONCE AGAIN, IT'S
TURKEY CAROLS
Improve your Thanksgiving. Try these Turkey Carols!
Turkey Tracks (Sing to Jingle Be
lls)

Dashing through the streets 
Kids and dads and mom
Seeing feathers fly
Chasing after tom

He'll hide behind the barn
Sneak up behind our backs
What fun it is to laugh and sing
And follow turkey tracks

Refrain:
O, turkey tracks, wings and backs 
Drumsticks all the way
Oh what fun it is to chase 
Tom turkey night and day
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O Pumpkin Pie (sing to O Christmas tree)

O pumpkin pie, O pumpkin pie 
How lovely is your custard
O pumpkin pie, O pumpkin pie 
How lovely is your custard
The whipping cream -- those snowy peaks
Or ala mode for ice cream freaks
O pumpkin pie O pumpkin pie
If you only came with mustard 
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Turkey in the Tummy (Sing to Deck the Halls)

Deck the table with roast turkey
Gobble, Gobble, Go-bble, Gobble, Gob
Put away the old beef jerky 
Gobble...
Someone say the family blessing
Gobble... 
And pass along the wild rice dressing
Gobble...

See the feast before us
Gobble...
Alka-Seltzer will restore us
Gobble...
Meanwhile pass the berry jelly 
Gobble...
And fill the old Thanksgiving belly 
Gobble...

BILL SACKTER CENTENNIAL
COMING APRIL 10-13, 2013
April 13, 2013 marks the 100th birthday of Bill Sackter, whose life and spirit inspires Bill's Coffeeshops and a host of other enterprises in Iowa City and other communities. Wild Bill's and Uptown Bill's are collaborating on a centennial celebration for this occasion. Events include showing of "A Friend Indeed: The Bill Sackter Story" on Friday, April 12 and an all day birthday party on Saturday, April 13. For updates, "like" the Bill Sackter Centennial page on Facebook.

HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE
AT VINTAGE SHOPPE
Be sure to visit the Vintage Shoppe during its annual Holiday Open House. The dates are Thursday and Friday, Nov.29 & 30 and Saturday, Dec. 1. 10 am to 5 pm. Vintage is another project of the Extend the Dream Foundation. Located at 2203 F. Street, the store has a wide array of antiques and collectibles. For information, call 338-4466. Or visit The Vintage Shoppe on Facebook. 
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Bill's Coffeeshop Newsletter is a virtual extension of Wild Bill's Coffeeshop and Uptown Bill's Coffee House. Published since 2000, the Newsletter is written by Tom Gilsenan, a former manager of Wild Bill's and now director of Uptown Bill's. You can write to him at tomgilsenan@gmail.com

Wild Bill's Coffeeshop is a project of the School of Social Work at the University of Iowa. It has been a part of campus life in Iowa City for more than 35 years. Located in North Hall, the coffeeshop is open weekdays from 8 am. For more information, check the Friends of Bill's Coffeeshop page on Facebook. You can call the coffeeshop at (319) 335-1281. Donations to support the work of the coffeeshop may be sent to: Bill's Coffeeshop Fund, University of Iowa Foundation, P.O. Box 4550, Iowa City, IA 52244. Contributions are tax deductible.

Uptown Bill's is the crosstown cousin of Wild Bill's. Now in its 12th year, it includes a bookstore, performance venue and other businesses in addition to a coffeeshop. Located at 730 S. Dubuque, Uptown Bill's is open Monday through Saturday from 10 am. For more information, check the Uptown Bill's website or Facebook page. You can call Uptown Bill's at (319) 339-0804. Donations to support the work of Uptown Bill's may be sent to: Extend the Dream Foundation, Uptown Bill's, 730 S. Dubuque St., Iowa City, IA 52240. Contributions are tax deductible. You can also donate online at the Uptown Bill's website: www.uptownbills.org